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1. And when I looked around at the confident students walking around me around campus, heads held high, pursuing a dream that they had set out to achieve. I wanted that kind of confidence too. But my behaviors did not align with these confident attitudes, so I already knew is that I needed to change.

Research tells us that in order to get people to change, you need to not start with the attitudes, but with the behaviors, associated with those attitudes.

2. So, let me introduce you to a few techniques, that I think, you can use right away to help you feel more comfortable. In simply by greeting your anxiety and acknowledging it, that it’s normal and natural. It’s not necessarily going to reduce the anxiety but it will stop it from spinning out.

3. If I see this as an opportunity where I have a chance to explain and expand, I’m going to interact differently with you. So, spontaneous speaking situations are ones that afford you opportunities.

4. So, when you’re at a corporate dinner, and your boss turns to you and says, ‘Oh, you know him better than the rest, would you mind introducing him?’, you say, ‘Great! Thank you for the opportunity!’. Rather than, ‘...’ Right? ‘I’d better get this right.’

So, see things as an opportunity.

5. It reduces the cognitive load of figuring out what you’re saying and how you’re going to say it. It means that we have within our ability the tools and the approaches to help us in spontaneous speaking situations.

Give gifts. By that I mean, see your interactions as ones of opportunity, not challenges.

6. Now, I have used this technique for years, literally for years. And one of the ways I wanna introduce you to it is I wanna take you backstage

7. People think that was my big studio movie experience, but it felt like every other radical independent. Because they were doing something that hadn’t been done.

8. I totally knew when I was sobbing on the bathroom floor at three o'clock in the morning that someday Julia Roberts would wanna be part of that

9. There is a new science of self-control may hold the key to reversing these epidemics. It’s cold willingness. Willingness means allowing your cravings to come and to go, but not acting on them by smoking or eating unhealthy.

10. It's a broad approach to behavior change that's being used to help people with anxiety disorders, with addictions, even some innovative companies are now using it to help improve their employees' performance and reduce their stress.

11. They're no longer proof that you never should have tried, they're opportunities to learn. Because you know that at the heart of success is mot talent, it's effort. It's effort over time that produces accomplishment.

12. Jane was a 45-year-old person who started smoking when she was a teenager. She tried to quit smoking several times and was not successful. So, she was very skeptical that anything "new" was gonna be helpful to her for quitting, and yet she was really hopeful that this time would be different

13. One study found that this kind of self-talk was especially beneficial for reducing stress when engaging in anxiety-inducing tasks, such as meeting new people or public speaking.

14. A bird that doesn’t fly conserves energy, so it may be able to survive on a scarcer or less nutrient-rich food source than one that flies. The Takahe of New Zealand, for example, lives almost entirely on the soft base of alpine grasses.