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1. I wanna be a kid forever. And I think being creative and playing and getting to be characters and telling jokes allows you to be an artist eternally and what sounds better than that? I am a lot of things. A youtube creator, a producer, a writer, an actor, but most importantly, a storyteller. I am a huge nerd when it comes to
storytelling. I genuinely believe that stories make the world go around, it’s how we understand ourself, it’s how we understand others. And then social media is an incredible place to tell stories because they are no gate keeps. Literally anyone can click, upload and tell their story and there’s power to that.

2. How would you like to be a mind reader? Cause part of me is thinking, I bet your mind’s thinking, ‘that’s not gonna happen’. I had a client who was a corporate controller. And he would sit across to me in meetings and he was always looking down with the occasional glance up. I thought, ‘Well, you know, he is just socially inapted, he doesn’t know how to give me an eye contact. But this guy’s brain worked in a way that he was never gonna give me eye contact and no matter how many times I modeled the behavior I wanted him to use, all that did was make both of us feel uncomfortable.

3. How can you read people’s body language to read your minds? Imna bring out our first body language model, James. James represents seventy five percent of the world. You didn’t know this about James, but James is a looker. You'll notice he has wrinkles in his forehead because James looks up when he remembers something he has seen. And he looks up more often than most of us do. Next thing you notice about James is that he has thin lips and the other thing about lookers is they give you lots of eye contact. ‘Look at ‘em, look at ‘em, look at ‘em, all of ‘em. Look at all of ‘em.’

4. Boundaries are hard for a lot of us because many of us never learned boundaries. I like to think of boundaries as ‘our ability to identify, communicate and take action on our needs.’ Being able to say ‘ I need to eat, I need to rest, I need some space right now.’

Survivally speaking, boundaries are critical for us as humans to be able to say, ‘I need something.’ To be able to find safety and resourcing. This shift of delaying our needs into the unhealthy without knowing it, it’s where a lot of us find ourselves unknowingly stuck today. Somewhere in our lives we learned and adapted that repressing or sacrificing our needs for others was beneficial, but that became so autopiloted in our subconscious that it goes past the point of diminishing our terms and becomes unhealthy.

5. So, let’s get started with anxiety management. Eighty five percent of people tell us that they are nervous when speaking in public. And I think the other fifteen percent are lying. We could create a situation where we could make them nervous too.
Anxiety actually helps us. It gives us energy, helps us focus, tells us what we’re doing is important. But we wanna learn to manage it.
What does it feel like when you’re sitting in the audience watching a nervous speaker present? How do you feel? Just shout out a few things. How do you feel? UNCOMFORTABLE.

6. Saying a tongue twister forces you to be in a moment otherwise, you say it wrong. And it has the added benefit of warming up your voice. Remember I said today we’re gonna have a lot of participation? Imna ask you to repeat after me my favorite tongue twister. And I like this tongue twister because if you say it wrong, you say a naughty word. And imna be listening to see if I hear any naughty word this morning, okay? Repeat after me. It’s only three phrases.

7. So, let’s get started on the core part of what we’re doing today which is how to feel more comfortable speaking in spontaneous situations. I’m going to identify four steps that I believe are critical to becoming effective at speaking in… in a spontaneous situation. With each of those steps I’m going to ask you to participate in an activity.

8. Well, what if you are dreaming of starting a business or you’ve already started a new business? But you’re afraid to talk to people. And you’re afraid to share your business with people. I mean, fear is something that stops us all.

9. The point is we are planning and working to get it right. And there is no way to get it right. Just doing it gets it right, okay? So, let’s try this now. We’re gonna play this game twice. Again, it’s for thirty seconds. If you’re willing and able, will you please stand up, you can do this seated, by the way, but if you’re willing and able, let’s stand up, okay? In a moment I’m about to say ‘Go’ and I would like for you to point at anything around you, including me, it’s okay to point at me, I hope it’s not a bad thing you say when you point at me. But, point at different things and loudly and
proudly, call them different than what they are.

10. Did you notice anything about the words that you were saying? Did we find patterns, perhaps? Maybe some of you were going through fruits and vegetables, a few of you were going through things that started with the letter A.

11. When you see them try… to be aware of the cravings in your body, try to be willing to have those cravings, see if they pass on their own. And whatever choice you make, try to bring a spirit of caring and kindness to yourself, for that is the mountain that we are all climbing.

12. Believe in your ability to improve. If you're looking for a long-term change, consider the way you think about your abilities and talents. Do you think they are fixed at birth, or that they can be developed, like a muscle? These beliefs matter because they can influence how you act when you're faced with setbacks. If you have a fixed mindset, meaning that you think your talents are locked in place, you might give up, assuming you've discovered something you're not very good at. But if you have a growth mindset and think your abilities can improve, a challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow.